We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physical appearance or social skills aren't what you wish they were, that doesn't have to stop you from being confident. Here's how to believe in yourself.
- Don't compare yourself with other people. It is a wasteful pursuit, and you could be doing something better with your time and energy. Know what you, personally, want and expect from yourself, and focus on attaining those things. The things that you want and expect from yourself don't have anything to do with how you measure up to others.
- Consider attending leadership classes. Learn to take control of things. If you are in school, then consider running for a social position, such as a president of a club. The ability to lead others and respond to others' behavior under your leadership will help to bring you self confidence.
- Listen to your inner monologue—your inner voice. In situations where you believe you lack confidence, realize that your inner voice is telling you negative things. You need to retrain that inner voice to be positive in those situations.
- Speak positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying something negative about yourself, instantly replace it with a positive comment.
- Slow down all of your movements including your walking speed. Quick movements and actions are the product of someone who is nervous and not in control.
- Write down a detailed, thought-out list of values which are important to you. Then you can observe everything that happens in your life through these values and evaluate how to react to events. By judging yourself according to your own values, rather than everyone else's values, you're giving yourself expectations that you can actually achieve.
- Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
- Ask for what you want. If everybody's going to the movies, and most people in the group want to see a particular movie, but you'd rather watch something else, speak up! There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, and it doesn't have to mean you're making a demand. Simply reminding people that you're an individual with your own preferences is a big step forward. Even asking someone to help you do something will help.
- Do something for yourself. Do one thing you have been wanting to do, but are afraid someone else will not like. Dye your hair, get that new look, have a treat that you enjoy, go on holiday....whatever you do, do it for yourself, and practice not worrying what anyone else thinks about it.
- Be yourself don't be afraid to ask questions!!!
- When you look in the mirror don't look for flaws, instead smile and tell yourself you look pretty today.